Nobody likes to feel controlled or have their freedom restricted in any way. Expecting others to change to fit our preferences can lead to conflict and dissatisfaction in relationships. It's important to recognise that everyone
has the freedom and the right to be themselves.
When dealing with a partner whose habits may be bothersome, it's essential to remember that people are who they are.
Expecting someone to change to suit our preferences can lead to frustration and disappointment. Instead of trying to change them, it's important to accept them for who they are.
One approach to dealing with someone's annoying habits is to consider that they might be reflecting something we need to address within ourselves.
For example, if we're bothered by someone's way of handling
of money, it could be a prompt to examine our own relationship with finances.
Our closest relationships could potentially serve as mirrors for self-reflection. Each interaction presents an opportunity to choose how we respond, regardless of the other person's actions. It's important to consider why certain situations trigger us and what we can learn from them.
Ultimately, we have the power to choose how we want to show up and how we express ourselves in any given situation.
Of course, this requires practice. With more practice, you'll notice you're more accepting and allow others to be who they are.
How someone acts is on them, how you respond is completely up to you. No one can make you respond in a way that you don't want.
1. Take time to respond when someone’s behaviour bothers you
2.Choose your response mindfully bite your tongue before responding
3. Are you happy with your reaction? If No, what would you do differently?
4. Journal your thoughts about what triggered you, why do you think it
bothered you. (There are no right or wrongs here, how you feel is the only thing that matters)
5.Look at different relationships in your life. What they bring up for you?
6. What if this person/people constantly keep doing things that bother you and won’t change? Do you still want to have them in your life?
7. Keep a note of how someone makes you feel. Do you want to consider spending less time with them and or completely cut them out of your life
8. Repeat this exercise regularly and assess how you feel in respect to
someone else.